skills/personal-profile/references/questionnaire.md

# Dating Profile Questionnaire

Use this questionnaire to extend the private profile. Every question is
optional. For sensitive answers, prefix the response with one disclosure label:

- `public` — already visible on the dating profile;
- `shareable` — may be used naturally when relevant;
- `ask-first` — use only after confirming with the user;
- `private` — analysis context only; never include in a message;
- `skip` — leave unknown.

Short bullet answers are enough.

## 1. Dating direction

1. What are you currently looking for: long-term relationship, casual dating,
   meeting people, chat, friendship, or something else?
2. What pace feels right before exchanging social media, meeting, physical
   intimacy, or defining a relationship?
3. What would make a match especially worth pursuing?
4. What would make you stop immediately?

## 2. Conversation goals and style

1. What should early conversation feel like: playful, direct, curious, flirty,
   calm, absurd, intellectual, or another mix?
2. How direct should the agent be about attraction and meeting?
3. How much teasing is comfortable? What kinds cross the line?
4. Do you prefer answering every topic, focusing on one, or combining several
   briefly?
5. What makes a conversation feel boring, forced, or interview-like to you?

## 3. Real writing voice

1. Paste 5–10 messages you genuinely sent and still think sound like you.
2. Paste 2–3 messages that do **not** sound like you and explain why.
3. Do you normally use lowercase, complete sentences, abbreviations, slang,
   profanity, emojis, or reaction GIFs?
4. What is your usual message length?
5. Which recurring words, phrases, jokes, or emojis feel natural?
6. Which phrases make you cringe or sound AI-generated?
7. How does your Lithuanian voice differ from your English voice?

Remove names and identifying details from examples if preferred.

## 4. Safe conversation material

1. Which metal bands, techno artists, events, or subgenres do you actually like?
2. What do you enjoy doing outside work and music?
3. What do weekends usually look like?
4. Which foods, drinks, films, shows, games, books, sports, or creative interests
   can be mentioned truthfully?
5. Which places have you lived in, visited, or genuinely want to visit?
6. What are three short stories from your life that are safe to tell a match?
7. What true details about Yummy/the cat are fun to share?

## 5. Public profile inventory

1. What is the exact current bio text?
2. What prompts and answers are visible?
3. What does each photo show, and which stories behind them are safe to tell?
4. Is the React/frontend job visible publicly?
5. Are age, city, education, music, or other fields visible?
6. What reactions do matches commonly have to the layered photos, autism joke,
   or imitation-pistol picture?

## 6. Disclosure and sensitive topics

1. When, if ever, may the agent mention your personal autism self-description?
2. May `INTJ` be mentioned directly, or should it remain private context?
3. Which personal topics require asking first?
4. Which topics should never be raised by the agent?
5. Are politics, religion, health, family, substances, sex, income, or past
   relationships acceptable conversation topics? Under what conditions?

## 7. Compatibility and boundaries

1. What are your general deal breakers outside match-specific Wiki fields?
2. Which differences are acceptable but require caution?
3. Which qualities strongly increase interest?
4. What behavior feels disrespectful, manipulative, or unsafe?
5. What boundaries should apply after silence, rejection, mixed signals, or a
   canceled plan?

## 8. Practical dating constraints

1. What city or area may be shared?
2. What meeting distance and travel are realistic?
3. What days or times are normally possible?
4. What first-date settings feel comfortable?
5. Which social channel should be exchanged first, and what account information
   may the agent reference?
6. Are there transport, sensory, accessibility, dietary, smoking, drinking, pet,
   or scheduling constraints that matter?

## 9. Attraction and flirting

1. What compliment style sounds natural from you?
2. What flirting level is appropriate at the opener, active chat, social-media
   exchange, and pre-date stages?
3. What sexual tone is acceptable, and what is off-limits?
4. How should the agent handle a match who is very attractive but contributes
   little effort?
5. What kind of invitation would you realistically send?

## Minimum useful next answers

If completing the full questionnaire feels excessive, answer these first:

1. Current dating goal.
2. Five real messages that sound like you.
3. Exact profile bio and prompts.
4. Disclosure rule for autism and `INTJ`.
5. General deal breakers and boundaries.
6. Location/meeting constraints that may be shared.
7. Three safe personal stories or interests with concrete detail.